Really worried.

[jakegazzard]

Im really sorry to post this pathetic subject but i want to get it off my chest.
I haven't been to school for three weeks (since the week off) because i am having a very low time at the moment due to a lot of different things. The main thing is school. I mean, i have always got bullied since day one, but it really has been at its worst these last few years. The **** of people who do these things to people really are lower than scum in my eyes. It has only been this year that i have been bullied Physically. I now get thrown into tables, hit, punched, been spat on a few times and people tripping me up, oh and people throwing things at me. I must say, my dad was never the one to really get that involved in the bullying side, but now he must be mellowing in his old age of 43, he has been extreamly supportive past these few weeks and i couldn't have done it without him. He has been up to my so called school many times in the last year but these last three weeks, he has been coming down hard on the school, i tried to leave the school but i would get the same thing at other schools (well, not as bad as other schools actually care about the students). I now have to go back to the school tomorrow on part time so one lesson a day, starting from tomorrow am im extreamly worried. Even though i have to sit in a room with a helper tomorrow on my own, its still that school. I dont think i can even do that much longer. sorry for going on.

[glen_j]

chin up jake, most of us have been bullied at some point in our lives, i'm sure the school is trying to help you. make sure you keep a log of when things have happened to you as it will help people deal with the bullies, is the school aware your being physically assaulted?

[Supercaptaincrash]

I know alot of people are gonna disagree with this but!Jake the only way to stop the morons is to man up and crack em back! they WILL think twice about coming at you again, guaranteed !

[andylinney]

Jake,

I totally understand where you're coming from but it's important to remember a few things, people bully others to take the attention away from themselves and having been through the education system it's likely to be the case regardless of where you go.

However, school is your oppurtunity to lay down the path you can tread for the rest of your life. I chose to put up with the crap, get my head down and just get on with it. Since then I've been through university, had a few good jobs and a few crappy ones, I was lucky enough to meet a beautiful woman and, ten years later marry her and find a good, rewarding job that pays well.

I did what mattered to me, school and all of the idiots who crossed my path there are a distant memory, I occasionally go back to Liverpool (where I was brought up and went to school / uni) and on most occasions, bump into one or more of the idiots who attempted to make things difficult back then. Invariably, they're still idiots who have done very little in life as a result of having achieved very little through their education. However, they're also at the wrong end of the deal now, and it's funny to smile nicely as you climb into your fast car as a happy, successful person and watch their jaws drop.

Putting up with the crap now will pay massively in the future, I know it's difficult but Karma ensures that what goes around, comes around.

[coolice]

Keep ya chin up matey, unfortunately bullying happens and for some people like yourself it can really effect your life in more ways than one.
Back at school I had a couple of instances where I was not bullied as such but targetted by boys no bigger than me but with more guys behind them, I actually didn't return for 6th form because of it and went to college instead but it worked out better for me.

I hate to say it but actually knocking one of these idiots out would be great, but then that puts you in the wrong!
Your school needs to wake up and actually help you more I think, I am sure there is a proper organisation you can contact for help with bullying but am not sure

The bottom line is to stay strong matey and remember you have some seriously bad-ass heli friends behind ya :-) Radix batons at the ready!
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[Pitman]

Hi Jake,

When you posted a while back about being bullyed, a lot of forum members gave you a lot of good advice. This is a model helicopter forum, however, and I really feel you, and possibly your dad (it is great he is supporting you :)) need to get as much expert and professional help as possible. Below are a few links to where you can start looking. Just remember, bullying is illegal, and physical bullying is a criminal offence (assult). Dont let the ratbags get to you!

[URL="http://www.bullying.co.uk/"]Bullying UK - The UK Anti-bullying Charity - BullyingUK Registered Charity 1120107[/URL]
[URL="http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Yourchildshealthandsafety/WorriedAbout/DG_10015786"]Dealing with bullying : Directgov - Parents[/URL]
[URL="http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/Bullying/Pages/Bullying.aspx?gclid=CP_Nk9ncp6ACFShBlAodjCS1YQ"]Bullying | Bullying | Explore | ChildLine[/URL]

[stevieb337]

thats how i used to deal with things mate an it got me into more trouble than it was worth alltho i will say if my disabled son gets bullied at school i wont have any concerns visiting the parents an giving them a crack round the head :reddevil:

i do think you should catalogue the incidents tho mate an if the school dont help then the next higher authority would be the next step

hth

steve

[moonmanflyer]

It is sad to hear in this day and age it still goes on, kids are cruel as they say.
I too jake was bullied at school, and one day i lost the plot, went wild at some lad that pushed me too far, from that point i did get left alone and just got on with it until school finished and i was out of there.
My lad has had a couple of issues at school with bullies, but we come down hard on the school and give them there due, they sorted it out both times and quickly.
Sometimes transfering schools is the only option if the school is not sorting it, other is to contact your local mp and tell him/her how crap the school is.
If it is physical abuse, it is assult and you can tell the school if it continues you will go to the police, might make them act

[del19_82]

Jake, I was bullied all my way through school, its never nice and i wouldn't wish it on anyone. I stood up for myself eventually and it stopped but my school wasn't the most supportive about it!

The bullying really stopped as I got bigger (guys that know me on here will confirm that im not a wee boy lol) but i wish my school had been a bit more supportive at the time! THey even suspended me for standing up for myself which was disgraceful in my eyes but there was nothing i could do about it!!!

[Hangar-7]

[quote=Pitman;434419]Hi Jake,

When you posted a while back about being bullyed, a lot of forum members gave you a lot of good advice. This is a model helicopter forum, however, and I really feel you, and possibly your dad (it is great he is supporting you :)) need to get as much expert and professional help as possible. Below are a few links to where you can start looking. Just remember, bullying is illegal, and physical bullying is a criminal offence (assult). Dont let the ratbags get to you!

[URL="http://www.bullying.co.uk/"]Bullying UK - The UK Anti-bullying Charity - BullyingUK Registered Charity 1120107[/URL]
[URL="http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Yourchildshealthandsafety/WorriedAbout/DG_10015786"]Dealing with bullying : Directgov - Parents[/URL]
[URL="http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/Bullying/Pages/Bullying.aspx?gclid=CP_Nk9ncp6ACFShBlAodjCS1YQ"]Bullying | Bullying | Explore | ChildLine[/URL][/quote]

IMO, you have reached a state where you need to get your MP involved and the matter must be reported to police, if necessary. If school Head Master is not helping you then he should be reported to your MP in the first instance.

I would also suggest keep a log of all the incidents with date, time and the person(s) involved - if you know their names. As have been said, bullying in a school is illegal and your parents needs to be involved.

I also suggest show this thread to your father.

[Grant_beltcp]

Jake - sorry to hear about your situation again....
Its alot more common than you would think, and there really is no real answer to give you. I'm 22, and it wasnt that long ago I was in school and had alot of problems (from year 8 in school to college, and to be honest I still have trouble with the same scum if ever pass their way). I was always taught to stand up for myself, it sometimes worked and it sometimes didnt.

I had some serious trouble from the "hardest" kids in school -They were almost always in groups and it wasnt too easy to stand up against all of them. I ended up waiting round a corner when i knew everyone was together and called out the "leader" of they group. Before he had chance to do anything i kicked the hell out of him infront of everyone. As soon as he was down I left him, untill he got back up and knocked him straight back down again. That helped for a short while, as I made sure I scared every one of them individualy, but I certainly wouldnt recomend it in any way. They stayed together after that and made things far worse.

Its all too easy in this era to really get yourself in trouble, or often killed for even looking at someone, let alone standing up for yourself. I now try to stay clear of most trouble unless its really needed - I even wonder what I would do if I saw someone else getting beaten in the street (would I help and risk all the trouble and likely a long future of trouble- or would I walk away and keep myself clear?).

Its a shit world whatever you do. Just out of interest, what year in school are you? If possible I would recomend joining some form of college or apprentiship as soon as you can. Things turned out alot better for me once i left the schol environment.

[sacko]

Deal with this day in day out being a teacher, but some of the best advice is given in the posts above.

As you have probably been told already, make sure you are making friends and teachers aware of what is going on. Keep yourself in a group of people and in view of members of staff when possible (easier said than done I know). Try and get yourself in lunchtime clubs too, im not saying change who you are etc, but unfortuantely bullying is inevitable in schools as we can only act on what we see (and when we do act the punishments arent half as extreme as we push for!).

Missing school really isnt the answer and the only person that will benefit from this, are the no hopes causing this. Working with a TA/LSA really will improve the situation in lessons etc im sure, as at most schools they are pretty well respected by students.

[Simon Harbrow]

IF this was happening in my school then some people would be leaving. No question. Jake you must get on with your studies - it is not your fault - you have the strength inside you to change the situation.
speak soon

Simon

[jakegazzard]

[quote=Simon Harbrow;434501]IF this was happening in my school then some people would be leaving. No question. Jake you must get on with your studies - it is not your fault - you have the strength inside you to change the situation.
speak soon

Simon[/quote]

Thanks simon and thanks everyone for your knid words. Simon, raptor is actually safe and ready with the noriginal jr rx! Your more than welcome to have a fly next sunday. On the bright side, at least i still have my PPL to look forward too.

[heliharry]

jake my sister was having trouble at school my dad went to the school about it time after time my dad moved schools but she could not get on there so moved back to the school she was first at and confronted the bully outside the school on her own she was not as tough as she was when in school with her friends from that day on she has not been picked on and she now stands up for others that are being bullied
it happens anywhere

the dog always has its day